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Why Everything Feels So Hard: Recognizing Executive-Function Struggles in Adults

  • Writer: Cody Thomas Rounds
    Cody Thomas Rounds
  • Jul 25
  • 4 min read
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A Morning in the Life: The Hidden Cost of Mental Chaos

The alarm sounds. Snooze. Again. You finally get up, but the coffee filter is missing. Your keys have vanished—again. Your inbox is already overflowing, and your calendar shows a meeting you forgot to prep for. Before the caffeine kicks in, the day already feels like a disaster.

You know you're capable. But something always feels just a little out of reach. That something might be executive function.

What Is Executive Function?

Executive function is a collection of mental processes that allow you to plan, focus, remember instructions, and shift between tasks. Think of it as the CEO of your brain. When it's operating well, life feels manageable. When it’s not, everything can feel like an uphill climb.

Core components of executive function include:

  • Planning and organizing

  • Time management

  • Task initiation

  • Working memory

  • Emotional regulation

  • Impulse control

When even one of these systems is under strain, small tasks can snowball. For many adults, this isn’t just stress—it’s the persistent friction of trying to function without the right mental tools.

Executive Function and ADHD: A Misunderstood Connection

While ADHD is often associated with children and hyperactivity, many adults experience it as a quieter kind of chaos. Lost keys, missed appointments, forgotten names, and mental clutter become routine. These aren’t signs of failure—they’re signs of executive function struggles adults face, often without realizing why.

Scientific research has confirmed that executive dysfunction is a core component of adult ADHD. A 2021 review in Neuroscience & Biobehavioral Reviews highlighted deficits in working memory, task-switching, and impulse regulation in adults with ADHD, even among those who are professionally and academically accomplished.

Many adults with ADHD spend years developing coping mechanisms—perfectionism, overcompensation, constant list-making. These strategies may work for a while, but when life adds complexity (career advancement, parenting, major transitions), those systems can collapse. That collapse is often the first clue something deeper is going on.

Are You Struggling with Executive Function?

If you’re wondering whether your daily frustrations are more than just bad habits, take a moment with these questions:

  • Do you often underestimate how long tasks will take—and then scramble to meet deadlines?

  • Do you rely on stress or panic to start projects?

  • Do you start one thing, get distracted, and forget what you were doing?

  • Do small problems feel emotionally overwhelming or disproportionately stressful?

  • Do you frequently misplace essentials like your phone, glasses, or paperwork?

  • Do you struggle with multi-step tasks unless you write everything down?

  • Do you often feel mentally disorganized—even in a quiet or calm space?

Answering “yes” to several of these doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means your brain may be wired to process information differently—and that insight matters.

Practical Coping Strategies While You Explore What’s Going On

Whether or not ADHD is part of your story, there are ways to reduce the mental load caused by executive dysfunction. These tools won’t fix everything, but they can provide traction in the short term.

1. Externalize Your Memory

Free your brain from holding everything. Use sticky notes, alarms, whiteboards, or digital reminders to keep track of tasks and ideas. The more visual and consistent, the better.

2. Attach New Habits to Existing Ones

Piggyback new routines onto stable ones. For example, while brushing your teeth, review your top three tasks for the day. While making coffee, check your calendar. These “habit anchors” reduce the cognitive effort needed to remember new behaviors.

3. Use Timers, Not Willpower

Start tasks with a short, fixed timer—like 10 or 15 minutes. Don’t wait for motivation. Often, once a task is started, momentum builds naturally.

4. Simplify Decisions

Reduce the number of choices you make in a day. Meal prep in advance. Choose a small set of “go-to” outfits. Decision fatigue can drain executive function—automating routine choices preserves energy for bigger tasks.

5. Shift the Narrative

You’re not “bad at life.” You’re dealing with an invisible set of barriers. Replacing self-judgment with self-curiosity can make a meaningful difference in how you approach your day.

When to Seek a Deeper Understanding

If strategies help only minimally—or if life still feels like a juggling act you’re always about to drop—consider the possibility that ADHD may be affecting your executive system.

Undiagnosed ADHD in adults can lead to years of self-blame and burnout. But identifying it doesn’t mean accepting defeat. It means understanding how your brain actually works—and finding supports that are tailored, sustainable, and grounded in research.

It’s not about trying harder. It’s about trying differently.

Final Thoughts

Executive function struggles can quietly shape every part of your day. They can erode confidence, cloud relationships, and leave you feeling like you’re always behind—despite your effort and intelligence.

If life consistently feels harder than it should, it’s worth asking why. Not to criticize. To understand.

Because you’re not lazy. You’re not chaotic. You may just be overdue for a different explanation.

Additional Resources

Unlock Your Potential: ADHD Testing and Treatment

Navigating a world that constantly vies for your attention can be challenging, especially when dealing with ADHD. As a board-certified psychologist with years of expertise, I am here to personally guide you through the nuanced processes of ADHD testing and treatment. Together, we can work to unlock the resources and strategies that foster a life of focus and harmony.

Explore the unique challenges and characteristics of adult ADHD in this insightful article. Learn why ADHD often goes unnoticed in adults and how its symptoms differ from those in children, providing key insights for those experiencing or diagnosing this condition.

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Take the first step towards a balanced and fulfilling life. Together, we can embark on this transformative journey, paving the road to a future rich in success, happiness, and personal growth. Reach out today to begin the conversation and take a proactive step towards personal wellness.



 
 
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Editor in Chief

Cody Thomas Rounds is a licensed clinical psychologist- Master, Vice President of the Vermont Psychological Association (VPA), and an expert in leadership development, identity formation, and psychological assessment. As the chair and founder of the VPA’s Grassroots Advocacy Committee, Cody has spearheaded efforts to amplify diverse voices and ensure inclusive representation in mental health advocacy initiatives across Vermont.

In his national role as Federal Advocacy Coordinator for the American Psychological Association (APA), Cody works closely with Congressional delegates in Washington, D.C., championing mental health policy and advancing legislative initiatives that strengthen access to care and promote resilience on a systemic level.

Cody’s professional reach extends beyond advocacy into psychotherapy and career consulting. As the founder of BTR Psychotherapy, he specializes in helping individuals and organizations navigate challenges, build resilience, and develop leadership potential. His work focuses on empowering people to thrive by fostering adaptability, emotional intelligence, and personal growth.

In addition to his clinical and consulting work, Cody serves as Editor-in-Chief of PsycheAtWork Magazine and Learn Do Grow Publishing. Through these platforms, he combines psychological insights with interactive learning tools, creating engaging resources for professionals and the general public alike.

With a multidisciplinary background that includes advanced degrees in Clinical Psychology, guest lecturing, and interdisciplinary collaboration, Cody brings a rich perspective to his work. Whether advocating for systemic change, mentoring future leaders, or developing educational resources, Cody’s mission is to inspire growth, foster professional excellence, and drive meaningful progress in both clinical and corporate spaces.

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