I Said to Myself 'My Attention Span Is Shot'. Here’s How I Got It Back

My attention span was shot. It wasn’t a grand epiphany, like the moment I once imagined I’d have when the weight of my life choices finally crashed through the windshield. No, it was smaller. Funnier, in retrospect. I was reading a book—something smart and complicated to impress myself—and I caught myself reading the same sentence four times in a row. Not because it was profound or elegantly phrased, but because I simply could not, for the life of me, absorb it. Research shows that people now have short attention spans, often measured in half minutes or less, and I was living proof.

My brain was a skipping stone, bouncing off the surface of the words, never sinking into meaning. Each time I tried to read, I’d get halfway through a sentence, think about what I was going to have for lunch, wonder if anyone had texted me, check my phone (they hadn’t), open Instagram, scroll through two minutes of videos of people making grilled cheese sandwiches, then return to the book—only to realize I’d forgotten where I left off.

It wasn’t just a distraction problem. It was a full-blown attention crisis.

And it wasn’t new.

For years, I’d convinced myself that my scatterbrain was just a byproduct of being busy. Who isn’t busy these days? It’s practically a virtue, a badge of honor. But the truth was more embarrassing: I wasn’t busy with important things. I was busy with everything. I was spending my time on distractions—notifications, endless scrolling, newsfeeds engineered to make me feel like I wasn’t doing enough with my life.

I wasn’t just distracted. I was being robbed.

Understanding Attention Spans

Let’s be honest: the phrase “attention span” gets thrown around a lot these days, usually in the same breath as “kids these days” or “back in my day.” But the truth is, attention spans aren’t just a generational gripe—they’re a real, measurable thing, and they’re shrinking. According to research by Dr. Gloria Mark, the average attention span has plummeted from 2.5 minutes in 2004 to a jaw-dropping 47 seconds today. That’s less time than it takes to microwave a burrito.

Why the nosedive? The answer is screens—lots and lots of screens. Our lives are saturated with technology, and every ping, buzz, and notification is a tiny thief, chipping away at our ability to focus. Add in the stress of modern life and the sleep deprivation that comes from late-night scrolling, and it’s no wonder our sustained attention is suffering. The more we bounce between apps, emails, and endless feeds, the harder it becomes to concentrate on anything for more than a few seconds.

But here’s the good news: understanding what’s hijacking our attention is the first step to getting it back. By becoming aware of how screen time, stress, and lack of sleep affect our brains, we can start to make choices that restore our ability to focus. It’s not about swearing off technology forever—it’s about learning to use it in a way that supports, rather than sabotages, our attention spans.

The Great Digital Robbery of Attention Span

Somewhere along the way, I’d handed over the keys to my mind. It wasn’t a conscious decision. I didn’t wake up one morning and think, “Today, I will abandon my ability to focus and become a drooling consumer of algorithmically curated nonsense.” No, it was sneakier than that. It was death by a thousand taps: a quick check of my email here, a glance at social media there, a scroll through online shopping “just for fun.”

I mean, who needs to stare into the existential void when you can distract yourself with 15-second videos of people organizing their refrigerators? All this digital content distracts from meaningful work and chips away at my ability to focus.

The more I tried to multitask—answer emails while watching Netflix while refreshing Twitter—the more fragmented I became. My thoughts felt like a deck of cards thrown into the air, with no hope of landing in order.

And so, one afternoon, after realizing I’d spent an entire hour toggling between tabs and still hadn’t finished a single task, I recognized I had reached a break point. I decided I had to do something drastic.

I needed a detox. A digital detox.

My (Deeply Flawed) Plan

I won’t lie—I approached this with the overconfidence of a person who once decided to take up jogging and was shocked to discover it involved actual running.

The plan was simple: No social media for 30 days. No mindless scrolling. No checking my phone every five minutes just to see if anyone liked my latest post. I even deleted apps from my phone, like I was banishing demons. I told myself I’d read more, think deeper, maybe even rediscover the simple pleasures of staring out a window.

For the first few days, I was a mess.

I reached for my phone at red lights, in line at the grocery store, during commercial breaks. My thumb hovered over where Instagram used to be, like an amputee trying to scratch a phantom limb. I found myself sitting and staring blankly at walls, listening to the hum of the refrigerator, and realizing how much of my day had previously been filled with the noise of digital junk. Being forced to simply sit with my thoughts and listen to my environment made me more present than I had been in a long time.

There was a moment on day three when I sat in silence for so long I became convinced the cat was judging me.

But slowly, something shifted.

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Managing Distractions

If you’ve ever sat down to do one thing—just one!—and found yourself, twenty minutes later, deep in a Wikipedia rabbit hole about the world’s largest candy store, you know how easily distractions can derail your best intentions. In a world where every device is designed to grab your attention, staying focused can feel impossible.

But here’s the secret: you don’t have to rely on sheer willpower alone. There are practical ways to manage distractions and improve your ability to concentrate. One of my favorites is the Pomodoro technique—set a timer for 25 minutes, work on a single task, then take a 5-minute break. It’s like interval training for your brain, helping you stay focused without burning out.

Other tricks? Turn off notifications, close unnecessary tabs, and carve out a quiet workspace if you can. Even small changes—like putting your phone in another room or using apps that block distracting sites—can make a big difference. The goal isn’t to eliminate every possible distraction (good luck with that), but to create an environment where your brain has a fighting chance to focus. The less you have to fight against constant interruptions, the more you’ll notice real improvements in your attention span—and the less stressed you’ll feel at the end of the day.

A Mind Begins to Return

Around the end of the first week, I noticed I was reading—actual reading, not just scanning headlines or scrolling Twitter. I finished a chapter of a book without once checking my phone. I sat through an entire meal without looking at a screen, and it was, I have to admit, both boring and oddly peaceful.

I discovered that conversations with friends were richer when I wasn’t half-listening while simultaneously composing a tweet in my head. I noticed details—the way light fell across the table, the quiet rhythm of breathing during meditation. I even started to write by hand, which helped me develop focus and felt both quaint and revolutionary, like I’d been transported to the 1800s and was about to draft a letter to a faraway friend.

I called this my “focus gym.” It wasn’t fancy. It involved setting a timer for 30 minutes and doing one thing—just one. No checking email. No hopping between tabs. No digital breadcrumbs leading me down rabbit holes. I made sure to schedule these sessions during my peak focus times. At first, my brain protested, like a spoiled child denied a cookie. But after a few days, it began to settle. These exercises noticeably improved my attentional capacity and led to attentional improvements, making a real difference in improving attention.

The mental noise started to fade. Regaining focus took real effort, but I soon noticed significant cognitive performance benefits as my mind became clearer and more alert.

Reflecting on the process, the idea of focus itself evolved for me—it became less about restriction and more about freedom to engage deeply.

The Surprising (and Sometimes Annoying) Side Effects of Mood Disorder

Of course, it wasn’t all enlightenment and deep focus. There were moments when I felt too aware—of how often I’d used my phone to avoid uncomfortable feelings, of how much I relied on screens to fill silences or to engage in rote activity just to pass the time.

I also discovered that boredom is a skill I’d completely lost. I’d forgotten how to just be—to sit with a thought, to let my mind wander without external stimulation. For a while, this was deeply uncomfortable, and I became more aware of the persistent feelings that would surface in those quiet moments. But then, like a muscle stretching after years of disuse, my capacity for boredom expanded. I stopped fearing it. Simple actions like drinking water or chewing gum helped me manage moments of restlessness and keep my focus.

I even noticed my dreams became more vivid—likely because I wasn’t falling asleep to the blue glow of a screen. I started sleeping better, waking up less groggy, and feeling (dare I say it) a little more human. These changes contributed to my overall well being and mood. I also observed that as I became less stressed, my heart rate and blood pressure seemed to settle, making relaxation and sleep even more restorative.

The Not-So-Perfect Recovery to Restore Balance

Let me be clear: I didn’t emerge from this detox a Zen master with an attention span of steel. I didn’t throw my phone into the ocean or start living off the grid. The truth is, after 30 days, I reinstalled a few apps. I checked social media again. But here’s the difference: I noticed what it did to my brain.

I noticed how, after just a few minutes of scrolling, my thoughts became more scattered. I noticed the subtle pull to check my phone even when nothing was happening. And I noticed that I didn’t like how it felt.

That awareness changed everything.

I became more intentional about how I used technology. I started monitoring my screen use and the length of time I spent on devices. I set phone-free times in the morning and evening. I kept social media off my phone except when I needed it for work. I replaced mindless scrolling with actual hobbies—walking, reading, writing things that no one would ever “like” or comment on. Spending time with family and pursuing interests like these contributed greatly to my recovery.

My attention span isn’t perfect, and I can still be easily distracted or experience a short attention span at times. But it’s no longer broken. It’s like a garden that got wildly overgrown with weeds, but now has paths cleared and flowers starting to bloom again.

Getting enough hours of rest each night also made a difference. These changes benefit adults as much as children, helping improve focus and overall well-being. As I developed new habits, my executive function and self-regulation improved too.

When was the last time you disconnected from technology and noticed how people interact differently offline?

Maintaining Progress

Getting your attention span back is one thing—keeping it is another. In a world that’s always trying to pull you in a million directions, maintaining progress takes a little planning and a lot of patience. The trick is to set clear, realistic goals and break them down into bite-sized tasks. Instead of trying to overhaul your entire life in one go, focus on small, manageable changes that add up over time.

Regular breaks are your friend—think of them as pit stops for your brain. Whether it’s a quick walk, a few minutes of stretching, or just staring out the window (without a screen in sight), these moments help restore balance and keep you from burning out. Don’t forget about self-care, either. Exercise, meditation, and even a good night’s sleep can do wonders for your ability to focus and handle stress.

And here’s a little secret: celebrate your wins, no matter how small. Finished a chapter without checking your phone? That’s a victory. Made it through a meeting without zoning out? Another win. Track your progress, use technology to your advantage (there are plenty of apps that help you stay on task), and remember that every step forward counts. By staying focused and building on your successes, you’ll not only improve your attention span—you’ll create a more productive, fulfilling life, one distraction-free moment at a time.

If You’re Feeling Fractured

I know I’m not alone. We’re living in a world designed to hijack our attention. If you feel scattered, distracted, constantly tugged between tabs and texts and notifications—you’re not broken. You’re just swimming in a current that’s pulling you away from yourself.

The good news? You don’t need to quit technology or become a digital hermit to get your mind back. You just need to pause, notice, and start making small, deliberate changes. If you’re struggling, remember that talking to someone you trust, or talking to a professional, can make a real difference. Children are also affected by digital distractions, and these strategies can help them improve focus and self-regulation too.

Try a weekend without social media. Or set a timer and focus on one task for 30 minutes. Or just go for a walk without your phone and see what your mind does when it’s left alone for a while. Write about your experiences to process and reflect on what you notice. Focus on creating new habits and keep improving attention as an ongoing goal.

You might be surprised at what bubbles up.

Cody-

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